This resource shows how to let God take every part of a relationship to the next level–from living each day with joys and struggles to working out decisions and disagreements to setting aside time for love and romance. by Dr. Greg Popcak, Lisa Popcak.
By Neil Kelly
When Fr. Matthew approached me about if I would be interested in doing a book review about said topic I couldn’t help but feel like God was sending us Father to sort of give my wife and I a push in a more virtuous direction.
As a young married couple (just over two years) there has definitely crept in a sense of complacency regarding our prayer life together. We are devoted Mass participants and involved with our Parish but when it came to our evening rosary it often got skipped on account of (insert worldly excuse here). Now with our 9 month old baby, it can make things even more difficult to sit down and pray the rosary especially. This is due to the fact that the evening seems to be when she is at her fussiest, and let’s face it, she really just wants to grab a hold of our shiny rosaries and shake them, chew and play with them…
I must say after reading this book it has been a help for my wife and I. Not just praying the Rosary, which it does touch on, but for me the importance of continuing to pray FOR one another as husband and wife. I can remember being told to pray for my future wife when I was single but I took for granted how it, (dare I say) is even more important to continue to pray for her when you are living under the same roof. Especially when she has to live with me.
Both authors stress the importance of being real with God and being yourself and trying not to come to him putting enormous expectations on yourself, ie: you do not need to be St. John of the Cross or Theresa of Avila to communicate with God. Think of a father whose child brings a drawing home from preschool, the father will put the drawing up on the fridge because he is proud of the effort even though the drawing may be lackluster.
Early on in my reversion back to my faith I had a conversation with a priest who told me that when he decided to go through seminary to become a Priest. He told God, “You are getting me and you know me better than anyone, so patience is going to be needed”. That always seemed to stick with me.
The book also goes into detail in giving advice for discerning big decisions in your life together. Whether it be moving houses or switching jobs. Bringing these to God and asking him to guide you in the direction that he is willing for you can be a large help.
Also being able to pray through conflicts that you will inevitably have together is important. Though this may seem very difficult on the surface if we can manage to swallow our pride and do this together at a difficult moment, our rationalization can be made much more clear if we can take a deep breath and pray about it to God.
I would recommend this book to couples young and old who are coming into or back to the faith. It is a great resource and starting point on our pathway to holiness, and the ultimate goal which of course is eternity in heaven.
There is an old saying – “The family that prays together stays together”.