SACRAMENT OF MATRIMONY

The liturgy of the Sacrament of Marriage in the Church is full of beautiful symbols and blessings. Discerning this sacrament as a divine calling for you is more crucial than one's consideration of many well-known social benefits of marriage. The Church believes and teaches marriage as "a special sacrament" for "the duties of marriage in mutual and lasting fidelity" [1] and "mutual help and service" between a baptized man and a baptized woman in the unique, life-long partnership of total and mutual self-giving love. Marriage and married love are by their nature ordered toward the good of the spouses and the procreation and education of offspring, so that a man and a woman by their union in Christ are "no longer two, but one flesh" (Matt. 19ff).[2]

[1] Liturgy of the Sacrament of Marriage.
[2] Gaudium et Spes, 48.

FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS

Congratulations! The first step is to contact your local Catholic parish. If both of you are Catholic, you may contact your parish priest. Your pastor will schedule a series of interviews with you and your fiancé in order to prepare you pastorally for marriage.

Yes, it is a requirement. If you live in the Ottawa Archdiocese and you're planning to get married look for a marriage preparation course. The Ottawa Archdiocese has resources to help you with this on their website: http://catholicottawa.ca/marriage.

Couples should speak to their pastor at least twelve months in advance.

To maintain consistency across the Archdiocese of Ottawa, it is a policy that no Eucharist be celebrated for marriages between a Catholic and a non-baptized person. The celebration of the Eucharist at marriages between a Catholic and a validly baptized non-Catholic is discouraged, but is at the pastoral discretion of the priest celebrating the wedding, bearing in mind the problem of living out disunity at Communion time.

Yes, and you must consult your priest for the arrangement.

Yes. There are many beautiful passages and themes from the list of the readings for the couple to consider together. Their priest will be able to help them find appropriate readings.

No. There are many places for creative choice in the ceremony, but the content of the vows is for the validity of the act of entering marriage and therefore we ask that the given formula be carefully observed.

"The rite of marriage belongs to the Church, so the Church regulates its celebration."[1] In planning your wedding, you must consult the Pastor and the existing policy about music and the securing of musicians on your music selection. The Church has a rich repertoire of beautiful and suitable music and hymns. We are confident that with your Pastor’s help, you will find meaningful pieces of music for such a sacred event as your wedding celebration.

[1] Marriage, Ritual and Pastoral Notes (CCCB), no. 21, p.18.

Yes, it is normally true at many Catholic weddings. But culture and family are very much part of the discussion in terms of the details of the celebration. Your priest will be able to speak to your particular situation.

The procedure to get married in a Catholic Church in another country or Diocese is similar to getting married locally. Please contact your local Pastor who will prepare you for marriage and instruct you to take the Marriage Preparation Course. The Marriage documents are then 'transferred' to the Parish of marriage in the other country via the Chancery offices of the respective Dioceses involved or by being handed back to you to send to the Diocese which you will be married in, months in advance of your wedding.

A parish church is the ordinary place for the celebration of a marriage involving two Catholics or a Catholic and a baptized non-Catholic. Since the marriage of two baptized persons is a sacrament, it is not merely a private or familial celebration but also an ecclesial event. The spouses declare their consent before God and the Church and live out that commitment in and with the support of the local ecclesial community. Therefore, this celebration should take place in the parish church. Exceptions are only made when there is a grave and urgent cause such as illness or danger of death.

Canon 1127 §3 of the Code of Canon Law forbids a double celebration of the same marriage for the purpose of giving or renewing matrimonial consent. The Catholic Church could arrange to recognize the non-Catholic ceremony as sufficient. Talk with your priest first.

We cannot guarantee that a Catholic priest can officiate your wedding. Generally speaking, betrothed couples are advised to make arrangement with their local Pastor at least one year before their tentatively planned date of marriage. If either of you were previously married in the Catholic Church, then you must consult the Marriage Tribunal about your situation: the Church maintains that the new union cannot be recognized as valid if the first marriage is valid.

http://catholicottawa.ca/tribunal

A couple must be married by Marriage Licence. Given the transient nature of our Archdiocese, it is our policy to not publish Banns.

According to the particular law of the Archdiocese of Ottawa weddings in the Catholic Church are not allowed to be celebrated on Sundays or Holy Days of Obligation (January 1, the solemnity of Mary, Mother of God and December 25, the solemnity of the Nativity of our Lord Jesus Christ).

"The rite of marriage belongs to the Church, so the Church regulates its celebration."[1] In planning your wedding, you must consult the Pastor and the existing policy about music and the securing of musicians on your music selection. The Church has a rich repertoire of beautiful and suitable music and hymns. We are confident that with your Pastor’s help, you will find meaningful pieces of music for such a sacred event as your wedding celebration.

RESOURCES

To learn more about the Sacrament of Matrimony, these resources may help:

 

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